Thursday, April 14, 2011

Just a Mom

The waitress peeks around the carrier to see my smiling daughter peering back up at her. 
"How adorable!  How old is she?"
"About four and a half months," I reply, proudly glancing at my little one.
"I have a six month old.  It's so hard to leave them, isn't it?  When did you go back to work?" she asks as she continues to write my order.
"Oh, I'm not working...I'm lucky enough to be able to stay home with her."
Now, at this point, you would think the response could be something similar to...that's wonderful! or simply I bet you enjoy that!  Right?  Wrong.  Not in today's world anyway.

The waitress half rolls her eyes, as she nails me with her response.  "I could never do that.  Just sitting at home all day, not doing anything?!  I'd go crazy.  Plus....I don't think I could take my son 24/7.  I need "me" time, ya know?"

Now its my turn to roll my eyes as the waitress turns and walks away.  Oh, that's right, I think to myself. I'm "just a Mom."  Caring for a child all day, and all night....that's not "doing anything.  I forgot.

Unfortunately, suprisingly enough, this is the "grudge" the world has against Moms.  They don't work.  They stay at home doing nothing.  Cooking?  Cleaning?  Laundry?  C'mon...that's not real work.  That's just playing house.  If you want to be a "June Cleaver" and keep your pretty little dress from getting dirty in the real world, that's fine, I guess.  How sad.

Even though I've just recently entered into this "Just a Mom" world, I'm quickly starting to learn just how biased people are against a "stay-at-home" Mom.  (We're obviously too weak to get real jobs.)  And if that's not the mentality I get blasted with, I get the second half of this waitress' response.  "I could never deal with my son 24/7."  Oh, but excuse me...isn't that why you had a son in the first place??  Or was it just to make a "doll" out of him and place him on the shelf at the daycare when you're tired of playing? 

A Mother is never "just a Mom."  She's a committed individual who, through the grace of God has been allowed to cooperate with Creation!  How awesome a thought is that??  For nine months, that child grows inside of her, is a part of her...and suddenly that job is not important once the child is born??  How does that make sense?  A child (and not just as an infant), NEEDS their Mother.  They DEPEND on their Mother.  Mentally, emotionally, physically. And if that Mother is off working an 8--10 hour shift every day, how she going to continue to nourish that child?  (Now, I do understand there are certain cases where the Mother has to work...but I'm referring more to the mentality of most mothers who feel they "aren't doing anything" if they don't go out and have their career.)

Being a "Mother" IS a job in and of itself, and its such an importantly vital job for the family.  Unfortunately, most Mothers in today's society don't understand how crucial it is for them to BE in the home.  They are the heart of the family, and just as a body can not function without the heart, how does a family function without the Mother?  Sometimes, it can be a real sacrifice for the Mother to stay at home...especially considering these economic struggles.  But I give an awful lot of credit to all those Moms who realize their true role, and stick by it IN the home. 

May the Blessed Mother Mary, the ideal and purest example for all Mothers, give us all the strength and courage to fulfill our duty of Motherhood.

10 Things Never to say to a "Stay at Home Mom":

1. When the kids are older, do you think you'll get a real job?

2. How June Cleaver of you!

3. Oh, so you don't work?

4. Since you have extra time on your hands, could you whip up a few dozen brownies for the bake sale tomorrow?

5. All day with your kids? I can't even imagine.

6. I'm jealous. I wish my husband were rich so I wouldn't have to work either.

7. What do you do all day, anyway?

8. I'm sure you're not the only one who's ever wasted money on a college degree.

9. That explains why your son is so clingy!

10. Weird. I assumed your house would be superclean.

1 comment:

  1. great post!!! i feel so sad when I hear moms say how much they like dropping their kids off at day care. i HATE leaving my little guy. It is so hard. My landlady loves watching Luke... but I still can't bring myself to ever call her so I can go to the mall or have my "me" time because I truly hate leaving him. I'm his MOM.

    There is a commercial I keep hearing on the radio for a local daycare advertising that they now open at "5am and will take babies as young as 6 weeks for your convenience!!!" It rips my heart out every time I hear it. Can you imagine taking your 6 week, 6month, or any baby out of its cozy crib in the dark of morning and dumping him/her off with strangers? No thanks!

    I just wanna scoop all those babies up and take them home with me. Being a mother has turned me into a total baby mushball. And I *think* that's the way God WANTS women to be.

    And i loved the 10 things not to say to a stay at home mom :D